As a relationship coach, I help individuals and couples to break free from old patterns, build deeper connections, and rediscover their authentic selves. My approach is warm, honest, and empowering – so you can create lasting change in your life and relationships.

 

My name is Joke Devolder, proud mother of two teenage daughters, and for over 20 years i have been guiding people in their personal and relational growth.

Throughout my professional journey i have obtained several degrees related to self-development, communication, and relationships. At the same time, my personal life has given me profound experiences with self-awareness, family responsibilities, and the challenges of love and connection. These experiences allow me to stand with wisdom, empathy, and authenticity in the work i do today.

Coaching, for me, is not just a profession – it is a calling. I am passionate about supporting people who want to grow: whether individually, as partners, or when facing the pain of a breakup. Helping others to reconnect with themselves, to strengthen their relationships, and to discover new possibilities gives me deep fulfillment.

In my practice, i work with a wide range of topics such as:

  • conscious communication and self-love

  • emotional challenges, stress, and burnout

  • dealing with manipulation, aggression, or betrayal

  • attachment difficulties and healing from past experiences

  • blended families and the dynamics they bring

  • finding balance between individuality and togetherness

What sets me apart as a coach is not only my expertise, but also my personal qualities. People describe me as authentic, respectful, honest, empathetic, positive, open-minded, objective, trustworthy, warm, and deeply committed to creating connection and awareness.

My mission is simple: to guide you in becoming stronger in the most important relationship of all – the one with yourself. From there, every other connection in your life can grow more authentic and fulfilling.

 

Coaching With Me

Every person and every relationship is unique. There is no single formula that works for everyone – and that is exactly why coaching can make such a difference.

In my sessions, i create a safe and supportive space where you can:

  • explore your feelings, challenges, and patterns without judgment

  • gain clarity about what is really happening in yourself and in your relationships

  • discover new perspectives and practical ways to grow

  • learn to communicate more openly and build stronger connections

  • and most of all: reconnect with your authentic self

Whether you are:

  • in a relationship and want to deepen your bond

  • facing difficulties with your partner and looking for solutions together

  • going through a breakup or separation

  • or single and wondering how to find love without losing yourself 

…I will walk beside you. Coaching is not about giving you ready-made answers. It is about helping you discover your own strength, so that you can make choices that truly fit who you are and what you need.

I believe that change begins the moment you dare to look at yourself with honesty and compassion. From there, real transformation becomes possible – in your life, in your relationships, and in the way you connect with others.

 

Love Relationships

A romantic relationship is one of the most vulnerable bonds we can have. You open yourself to another person – sharing your values, dreams, fears, strengths, and even your less perfect sides. Over time, you get to know each other more deeply, and this can either bring you closer together… or create tension and frustration.

It is natural to have disagreements or moments of irritation. But when these frustrations dominate, they can block love and connection. Some people try to change their partner to fit their own needs, while others lose themselves by adapting too much, just to keep the relationship alive. Both paths eventually harm the authenticity and equality between partners.

In a healthy relationship, differences are not threats – they are opportunities for growth. If you and your partner are struggling to find that balance, it may be time to look more closely at what is happening between you.

Together, we can:

  • uncover the patterns that keep repeating

  • learn to communicate more openly

  • rebuild trust and intimacy

  • create a stronger foundation for your future

Love is not static – it grows, evolves, and transforms. With the right guidance, even challenges can become moments of deep connection and renewal.

(Un)willingly Single

Being single can mean very different things. For some, it is a conscious and fulfilling choice – a time to enjoy freedom and focus on personal growth. For others, it feels less voluntary: life is going well in many areas, but love always seems to be missing.

Maybe you keep attracting the wrong partners.
Maybe you rarely feel true attraction.
Maybe you get anxious in dating, or end up in the “friendzone.”
Maybe you start to doubt yourself or lower your standards, just to avoid being alone.

If this feels familiar, you are not alone. Many people find it difficult to build the kind of meaningful, lasting relationship they long for. And that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. It simply means you haven’t yet found the approach that works for you.

In our coaching sessions, we will:

  • explore the patterns that block you from finding love

  • strengthen your confidence and self-worth

  • discover how to stay true to yourself while opening up to another

  • and prepare you to create a healthy, loving relationship that lasts

You don’t have to figure it all out by yourself. With the right support, love becomes something possible and natural again.

Coaching or Therapy?

The words coaching and therapy can be confusing, but the difference is quite simple.

  • Therapy (with a psychologist) often looks deeply into the past – uncovering trauma or early experiences that still affect your life today.

  • Coaching is more present- and future-focused. Instead of analyzing everything in depth, we look at your patterns, emotions, and behaviors in a practical way. The goal is to help you understand yourself better and create concrete steps for change.

In coaching sessions, we might explore questions like:

  • Why do I react so strongly in certain situations?

  • Why do I struggle to set boundaries or say no?

  • Why do I keep falling for the wrong partners?

  • Why do I look for validation outside myself?

  • Why does communication with my partner feel so difficult?

You don’t need to be “analyzed.” What you need is a safe space to reflect, gain insight, and learn new ways of approaching yourself and your relationships.

Individual Coaching

When you feel stuck, insecure, or overwhelmed, individual coaching helps you reconnect with yourself. Together we uncover your triggers, habits, and beliefs – not to judge them, but to understand them. This understanding gives you the power to choose differently, so you can build healthier patterns in love and in life.

Couple Coaching

As a couple, you may come with conflict, distance, or simply the desire to deepen your connection. I help you:

  • communicate in a more open and respectful way

  • break through unhelpful patterns

  • listen to understand rather than defend

  • and find practical solutions that fit you both

The goal is not to “fix” you, but to strengthen your bond so that you can move forward together with more love, clarity, and mutual respect.

Why Choose My Practice?

Coaching is built on trust and connection. My approach is warm, open, and non-judgmental. I take the time to truly listen, so that you feel safe to be honest and to explore what is really going on. Sessions can take place in my practice, but video calls are of course also possible.

What you can expect from me:

  • Honesty and transparency – You will know right away what to expect from me and what results may be possible.

  • Genuine attention – I listen not only to what you say, but also to what lies between the lines.

  • Space and calm – We don’t stop when the clock says so; we finish when the conversation feels naturally complete for that day.

  • Experience and dedication – With my background and passion for personal growth, I guide you with care and commitment.

  • Practical insights – You leave the session with clarity and concrete tools you can immediately put into practice.

My goal is that you (or both of you) leave each conversation feeling lighter, stronger, and more confident about the future.

Rates

A coaching session is a valuable investment in yourself and your relationship.
I provide a safe and open space where you are truly heard and where there is time to get to the heart of the matter. A session typically lasts about an hour, but may run a little longer until we reach a natural closing point.

  • Individual session – €150
    For those seeking personal guidance with questions, decisions, or themes that need attention.

  • Partner session – €220
    For partners who want to work together on deeper connection, better communication, and greater understanding of one another.

The true value of coaching is not only in the session itself, but especially in what you take with you afterwards: more peace, clarity, and new possibilities for growth.